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Tuesday, 28 June 2011

Hmm…..Now I Sound Just Like Mak




When I was a young child and teenager, mother used to issue several commands and advices in order to instil  some discipline in me  and my siblings. Obediently and timidly, I would say, ‘Yes mother’ with no question asked, although some of those advices left me wondering as to whether there were any truths in them.

Among others, mother would say:

  • Don’t sing in the kitchen or you’ll end up with an old man as a husband.
  • Don’t sit on the staircase, no suitors will ask for your hand in marriage.
  • Don’t forget to perform your prayer.
  • The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
  • Be home early, there are lunatics out there prowling.
  • Wash your hands properly before taking your meal.
  • Make doa before you go to sleep.
The first two, as mentioned above are rather baffling. As a young girl, it was hard for me to comprehend as to how by singing in the kitchen one would end up marrying an old man; And what’s wrong with a girl sitting on the staircase and how will that make her an anak dara tua or an old spinster? I just don’t see the connection. All that just makes no sense!

There must be some logic or rationale for them, so, I concluded that I shouldn’t be singing in the kitchen as to avoid burning something on the stove or worse still, burn the whole kitchen down! Probably too, I was such a lousy ‘singer’ and mak wanted some peace and quiet! I guess I shouldn’t be sitting on the staircase as  to allow free passage for others to pass through. Now, that sounds more plausible and acceptable.

Now that I’m a mother, to my surprise, I’m sounding like my mother echoing the same advices and commands to my children. I’ll constantly remind them to perform their prayers, wash their hands properly, not to come home late, make doa before they sleep and ‘come and watch me cook …………….’ and the rest of it.  Like any other parents, I only think in their best interest. Unwittingly, I use the same clichés to discipline them and now I sound just like mother.

I am sure that many parents out there must have experienced the moment when they say something to their kids and sound just like their mother.


JMJ: Mothers know best.

22 comments:

LuvTrisya said...

Hahahah .........love this a lot. Mom knows best. Love my mom, muah, muah. Tq, for such a lovely note. It had put a smile on me ......

rusna wana said...

Mak is the best and she know what the best for me...:-)

kaseh suchi said...

hihihi maybe all superstition has their own other meanings

nak tmbahan lagi superstition tuan belog:

jangan dok atas bantal..nati naek bisol....

padahal dorang takot bantal pecah... susah lak nak cari kekabu nak jahit wat bantal..hahahaha

mira bia said...

hehe. mak mmg nak yg terbaik utk anak2nya.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes I wonder what will I be if my mother don't nagging at me always when I'm a teenager...tak jadi orang kot...Mak I miss ur nagging very much...

Anonymous said...

Hi JMJ!

Your nostalgic piece reminds me of my late mother. Exactly, those were also the things that she told me when I was a child. As an adult, one would definitely find that the reminders and tips are not logical. But, they are rich in wisdom in educating the children at their tender years.

However, I wish that a stern reminder by our elders that one should not shift places when having a meal in order to avoid having multiple wives, is true. But sadly, after defying the reminder for years, there is still no sign of a new lady coming into my life. Maybe, I should practice patience as it is a virtue.

-- BALANGLAMA

Wan_hazel said...

mak semua dia taw..cuma kita je yang asyik membantah..rasa macam taw sangat dari mak..padahal bila fikir2 lagi apa yang mak cakap tu ada betul gak..(100% pun betul)


Bila dah dewasa baru taw apa yang mak cakap tu semua ada yang tersirat..dengan pantang nenek datuk nye semua lah..Walaupun Zaman dah modern Mak tetap yang terbaik..Dan lebih mengathui dari kita,,Kerna mak lebih dulu merasa garam

fara anak abah said...

haha..sume pesanan mak2 kita ni patut buat buku la..sbb bnyak sgt.haha..n relatekan dgn basic islam didalamnya..setiap pesanan ibu ada baiknya..n pasti ada islamic explanation yang jelas dengan pesanan2 2..=)

eg:jgn klua main waktu maghrib-->bg la hadis or ayat AQ y cakap waktu maghrib adalah waktu beribadah n waktu syaitan berkeliaran..
n lagi bagus kalau masukkan skali medical basis on that macam..lagi bnyak berzikir,lagi bnyak air liur dirembeskan,lagi banyak bac dlm mlut kita dibunuh.n makin sehat lah kite!!=)

nanakimie said...

The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach...hehe..tak pernah pulak dengar yang neh:)

apapun mak saya memang yang terbaek! heheh..sayang mak!:)

♥EiDaEiRaFiZie♥ said...

kadang2x mulut mak memang masin. tu lah namanyer naluri ibu memang betul.hihi

kaseh suchi said...

mulut mak masin sebab mak makan garam banyak sangat.... tu la yang kena penyakit darah tinggi hehehe

kata2 tu doa bagi sesiapa yang berkata2 apa2 aja...

jadik ibu2 semua silalah berkata yang elok2 pada anaknya...
jangan asik cakap ank nak kena kawen ng orang tua...kang menjadi betul2 naya kat si anak,,hehe

tapi jodo Allah yang tentukan=)

fiezahkecik said...

hehe. mak la org yang paling dekat dengan kita dan apa yang dia katakan sentiasa betul. hehe :)

cikbintang said...

mak cinta aty sy..

cinta...bile mak kata suh amek kos belajar ni...tp kita xmo ikut..bile da rasa xbest..bru nyesal..dats why i cinta mak!!

cinta...bile mak ketuk pintu bilik mcm nk roboh suh solat subuh~~~

cinta..bile mak masak n rasa mskn mak da best d dunia kalah chef wan yg tau smuanye =)

cinta..bila mak duk atas katil share cite gosip sme2..=)

cinta..bila mak tau kwn dr kecik smpai la ni....tu sbb suka gosip ngn mak..she knows evrythngs...

ciinta..bile crita mslh..mak penyelesaiannya even mslh xslesai lg..but she's my medicine ever...

i love mak

padlie said...

Kita membesar dengan ajaran mak.. Dah tentulah bila dah jadi ibu atau bapa, anak-anak kita akan diajar pesanan yg sama.. Semua mak nak anaknya jadi baik kan? Sayangi dan patuhi pesanan mak selagi masih berpeluang..

Anon said...

the way to a man's heart is to feed him with delicious home cooked meals! ;)

♥ echot comeL ! said...

cinta itu buta,

Wan_hazel said...

I love my mom

nanakimie said...

suka3x! dengan komen cikbintang:) masing2 punya kenangan terindah dgn mak terchenta...bukan dgn pakwe makwe je nak bercintan cintun kan:)

Wan_hazel said...

hahaha..betul tu nana...kalau renung kat wajah mama mesti rasa nak menangis...

AyuArjuna BiGoshh said...

sebab itu tapak dibawah telapak kaki ibu. seorang yang istimewa tiada tolok bandingnya :)

Wan_hazel said...

AyuArjuna BiGoshh

syurga ditapak kai ibu kan...banyak nye jasa dan pngorbanan ibu pada kita

aqishah said...

sayangkan anak memang harus membebel.. i think this the best to tell our child because we loved them so much

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